Last week I asked you and other people in my network to help me decide on the topic for my next free webinar by participating in a poll. The results of the poll were compelling as they communicated the need, want, and desire many women have to live purposefully, own their personal power and be assertive.

Yet, the poll reflected a stronger theme on women and their desire to have improved self-confidence and healthy esteem. This saddened me because I am all too familiar with what it is like to lack confidence and low self-esteem.  I am also excited because I am passionate about and do a good job at helping women grow in this very area- an area of personal development that is so important for women to truly believe in, pursue and achieve her full potential.

The process of designing a rich, life-changing webinar on this topic will require some serious work on my part- but oh am I ready! I will have to go back and reflect on my own journey and struggles with lacking confidence, low self-esteem, and insecurity.

Gosh! Just writing that last sentence provoked in me some emotion. Whew! But, that emotion is what will inspire me to create a damn good learning experience for those who participate on the webinar. So emotion I’m ready. Bring it on!

During the webinar, I will share my personal journey of living with and overcoming these negative, self-defeating emotions in more detail- but thought to share some of it with you right now. My hope is that women who learn about my experience and are challenged by the same feelings will realize that they are not alone and there is definitely a way out. There is freedom from the spirit of lack! So keep on reading! Please.

My Personal Struggle with Confidence & Low Self-Esteem

I was a pretty Confidencegirl who matured into an intelligent attractive young lady, I dressed well, and had a strong presence, and I believed it and walked confidently in what I now know to be superficial power. I was reminded by many including my family about this so often that when I discovered I had issues with low self-esteem I couldn’t understand why, but much later came to know the problem. It was too much attention on cultivating the external self. By the time I reached my early 20s I often felt incomplete, less than, unfulfilled and often compared myself to others. I did not value myself.

My soul and spirit were void of purpose. I did not have a healthy relationship with myself. I didn’t love or even like myself. It was hard to ever be alone so I kept myself busy with work, college, and oh yeah partying too–it was my great escape. Toxic friendships and unhealthy dating relationships became another distraction that only added to my self-doubt.  It wasn’t a good place to be. I didn’t think there was anything special or unique about me, and I kept up with the facade, all while hurting deeply. But, I also desired to understand and learn how to love and value me. But the how, that I wasn’t sure about.  So, I decided to take action and find a way out from my turmoil and began the process of cultivating my internal self.

Long story short- I found my way out by going on a journey to uncover the reasons why I had low esteem and confidence. Once I understood the why I was able to begin the healing- which takes time and can be long-lasting depending on the depths of the pain behind the esteem.

I am so thankful to have lived over the last 17 years a joyful life, complete with inner peace and healthy esteem. I stand a confident woman today because I did and continue to do the inner and spiritual work that is required of me to be free. I have also been given the opportunity to help other women who have similar challenges, and the truth is I would not be able to do the work if I did not go through my own struggle.

I know and understand this journey very well and in preparation for my next webinar, I will be doing additional research to ensure those who join me will walk away more knowledgeable of why one suffers from low esteem and confidence and steps for how to overcome it. It will be my goal to help women on that webinar fall in love with themselves for the first time or all over again. Will you join me? This will be a powerful and deep webinar session. You don’t want to miss it!

Stay tuned for additional details and the webinar date–coming soon.

Wishing you happy, healthy and abundantly high self-esteem!
Tirza

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